erbally and emotionally abusive relationships erode our sense of who we are, our ability to trust not only others, but ourselves. Emotionally abusive relationships tell us that we are wrong, no matter how hard we try. They tell us that we aren’t good enough, smart enough, loving enough even though we work day and night to prove ourselves and our love.

Verbally and emotionally abusive relationships tell us that control is actually love, and that jealousy and anger are just a sign of how deep that love is. They tell us that we have to show our love by being with them all of the time, and accounting for our whereabouts when we aren’t. Abusive relationships demand that they are the only relationship we focus on, and that our friends and family are a threat that must be avoided.

Emotionally and verbally abusive relationships destroy us over time.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. There is help and there is hope.

If you are in a difficult, toxic, or abusive relationship, or just feel you don’t ever do anything right with a partner, a friend, a family member, or even a work colleague, I can help.

I meet people exactly where they are in these relationships; whether you want to stay but get stronger, leave safely, or spend some time figuring out what you want. I can help you set boundaries with a difficult family member or friend who may be making you feel like you are a hostage to their moods or emotions.

By the time people reach out for help in these relationships, they’ve likely already been told enough times what they ‘should’ do, how to do it, and when.

My therapy space is a judgment free and pressure free zone. You are in charge of where we go and how fast we get there. I will work with your agenda, but I will always be honest with you about what I see and what might be helpful to you.

I believe that we are each experts in our own lives, but that difficult relationships can make us feel like we don’t even know who we are anymore. I have walked alongside many clients in my career who have gone from paralyzing fear and self-doubt to soaring free into a new life; a life truly of their own.

I have done relationships well, and I have done them badly. I know how painful a difficult relationship is, and I know the absolute joy of a garden variety, messy, regular old damn-near-great relationship. I also know that sometimes being alone is a lot less lonely that being in a hurtful relationship.

For the past twenty years I have been helping clients free themselves from the pain of difficult, toxic, or abusive relationships. I am here to help you find your self again, and maybe even a little joy, whenever you are ready.